摘 要

ABSTRACT II

1前言 - 1 -

1.1龙应台“人生三书”研究现状 - 1 -

1.2龙应台“人生三书”研究意义 - 2 -

2幼儿时——我只是希望你慢慢长大 - 3 -

2.1孩子——他的名字叫做“人” - 3 -

2.1.1首先是独立的个体 - 3 -

2.1.2尊重与爱同等重要 - 4 -

2.2父母——未知世界的“引路人” - 5 -

2.2.1介绍这个世界，然后学着放手 - 6 -

2.2.2为迷路的小牛，指明前进方向 - 6 -

3青春期——母子间的对话交流 - 8 -

3.1子女——学会沟通 - 8 -

3.1.1首先敞开心扉 - 8 -

3.1.2注重日常交流 - 9 -

3.2父母——学习倾听 - 10 -

3.2.1合理的角色定位 - 10 -

3.2.2倾听而非强行干涉 - 11 -

4成年后——面对身为父母的子女 - 13 -

4.1子女——有些路只能一个人走 - 13 -

4.1.1精神独立是人生独立的前提 - 14 -

4.1.2子女同为坚强的后盾 - 14 -

4.2父母——他们正在飞速老去 - 15 -

4.2.1用对待子女的耐心对待父母 - 15 -

4.2.2面对生老病死为人生常态 - 16 -

结 论 - 17 -

参考文献 - 18 -

致 谢 - 20 -

中文摘要

龙应台“人生三书”由《孩子你慢慢来》《亲爱的安德烈》《目送》三部作品组成。在书中，她以母亲和女儿的身份，陪伴两个儿子从出生走到了青春期，见证了父亲的离世与母亲的衰老，长达二十年且经历了两重身份转化。在此人生跨度中，她对培养子女与赡养父母有诸多思考。龙应台作家身份之外的女性角色更值得注意，在旅居德国十余年间，龙应台除撰写文章，还需照顾两个年幼的儿子，在哺育子女的过程中，东方女性的传统与其西方的自由教育理念相互牵制，她努力将孩子培养成为正直的人，过程中有苦恼与纠结，但更多得是喜悦与感动，正是母亲这一身份让她真正开始“人生课”。及至中年，面对日渐衰老的父母，龙应台对如何让赡养、陪伴父母也有了更多体会。她期望年幼的孩子慢慢长大，即便仍是幼童，也能够被当作独立的个体，受到应有的尊重与爱护，父母则是这一过程的引路人和守护者；她又期望缩小正处青春期的儿子与自己的代沟，便以书信的形式引导孩子与自己沟通，也让自己尝试倾听；她更期望时间可以放慢脚步，让自己在有限的时间里为父母尽孝，为子女尽责，让人生不留遗憾，但终明白，人生不过是一次次目送，送走子女，又送走父母，能做的便是不必追。本文通过分析龙应台“人生三书”，解读其不同寻常的家庭教育观念，即以尊重与爱呵护幼小的心灵；以沟通了解青春期的子女；以耐心陪伴渐老的父母。

关键词：龙应台；《孩子你慢慢来》；《亲爱的安德烈》；《目送》

ABSTRACT

Lung Ying-tai’s “three books of life” respectively are Take Your Time, Son, Dear Andre and Seeing Beloved One off. As described in the three books, she experienced the transformation of dual identities in twenty years as a mother and daughter through accompanying her two sons from their birth to adoles0cence and seeing the death of her father and the aging of her mother. During the transformation, she thought a lot about cultivating children and supporting parents. As a woman, Lung Ying-tai deserved more attention compared with being a writer. During the ten years of sojourning in Germany, Lung Ying-tai wrote articles while taking care of her two sons. In the process of cultivating children, she tried to bring up them to be upright under the interplay of traditional educational idea from the oriental woman and free educational idea from the west. There were agony and annoyance, but more joy and affection. It was motherhood that make her really start the life lessons. By middle age, facing with aging parents, Lung Ying-tai had more feelings on how to support and accompany parents. She expected that her young kids grew up slowly. She hoped that they were respected and protected as individuals, even though they are young. Parents are the guide and guardian in the process; She also expected to narrow the generation gap between her son who was in adolescence and herself. That’s why she tried to introduce her son to communicate in the form of letter and let herself to listen; She hoped time slow down so that she could show filial piety to her parents and be responsible for kids in a limited time, leaving her life no regrets. But she learned finally that life was but farewell again and again. When we see our kids and parents off, what we should do is not to chase. This article explains Lung Ying-tai’s different family education through analyzing her “three books of life”. That is to respect and protect young minds, learn children in adolescence through communication and accompany our aging parents with patience.

Key words：Lung Ying-tai ；Time, Son ；Dear Andre ；Seeing Beloved One off

1前言

1.1龙应台“人生三书”研究现状

龙应台于1952年出生于台湾，她作为华语作家，因其敏锐的社会观察力及犀利的文风而被誉为“华人世界率性犀利的一支笔”。其作品《野火集》因针砭时弊，曾在21天内再版24次，撼动文坛，也正因如此，龙应台的写作风格被称为“台式龙卷风”。